One of the most difficult choices a person can make in his or her life is making the decision to end their marriage. It is an absolute big decision, and it will no doubt have an effect on your life in the immediate future, and that’s if you haven’t already begun feeling the effects of it now-especially if you have children.
There is no absolute right answer (or wrong answer for that matter) regarding when one should file for a divorce. I would say should you file for a divorce when you are ready. Now, what does it mean to be “ready”?!?! Good question… being “ready” is acknowledging that this divorce means bringing a legal end to a marital bond that was assumed to your legally or formally recognized union between you and your spouse.
It DOES NOT mean that it is a fix or resolution to the issue(s) that caused the discourse or the “irreconcilable differences” between you and your spouse. Being “ready” means remembering your spouse’s character and generalities and setting reasonable expectations as to their actions and reactions as it relates conflict and diversity. Lastly, being “ready” means you understand that filing for divorce will not change who your spouse is, or “get back” at them for something they recently did to you. If anything, you need to know that getting a divorce will likely, at some point, force you and your spouse to come together and make some final decisions such as in your marital settlement agreement.
And while there’s no easy answer to the question, “Should I get a divorce?” there are certainsigns of divorce and things to consider that may help you decide if you should stay married or when to leave a marriage.
Military pay is not immune to Income Deduction Orders, Income Withholding Orders, or Garnishments. If the Military member was court ordered to pay child support or alimony in a divorce or other court proceedings, and the proper court document(s) has been acquired and sent to proper military finance institution (Defense Finance and Accounting Service (DFAS)) then the military member will have a significant change in their military pay.